OK look, here's my vibe at your wedding:
My #1 objective is to ensure that I don’t take away from your fun day. I don’t want my presence to be annoying or frustrating. I want to glide into the day like a random uncle who is funny but not weird, and who all your guests enjoy being around. Later on, after the wedding when you're looking at your photos, I want you to say to each other:
‘HA that was fun! And also Tom wasn’t weird at all, and he didn’t push us too far with photos, and he recognised when we just wanted to finish up and head to the reception and drink wine with our mates. He didn’t detract from our day - he made it better’ 😍